This week on the HomeBase Podcast I talked about losing your identity once you become a parent. It’s a serious struggle I think we all deal with to some degree, and maybe you haven’t had this struggle becoming a parent but I bet it’s safe to say you have or will go through this at some point in your life. For me I have these moments when I look in the mirror and I see this disheveled exhausted person starring back at me and I have no idea who she is and how she got into my bathroom. Or sometimes when I am trying to put together an outfit to go out with my Husband on the very rare date night, I just stand there looking at my clothes hung in my closet that don’t fit or may be “too revealing” for a “new mother” and I wonder “Who am I?” “Is this still my style?” “Will I ever be able to wear that sexy flirty dress again?!”
It’s these moments that make us think that we might be losing ourselves to parenthood. But I encourage you all to STOP! Think of all the things in your life that you LOVE: your spouse, your children, family, friends, pets! Think of those beautiful memories that you have with these people. These are the people and the moments that define WHO YOU ARE. It doesn’t matter what your hair looks like, or if your clothes are perfect. So what if you don’t have time to read anymore or go for a run 5 days a week. And yeah you had to skip out on the girls night cause your kid was teething, and you haven’t been to a movie in 9 months. SO WHAT! Does that movie night define you? Do those super skinny jeans make you a better person? NO WAY!
You are what you Love and what you Love is your family! You’re identity isn’t centered around tangible things, it’s centered around the people that “make your soul blossom.” (Thank you Marcel Proust/ his quote above) Stay strong and realize that you Love all these people and they all Love you because you’re beautiful and you make their lives grander!
You’re not losing your identity. Your identity just grew to include more people and that’s making you feel stretched a little thin. But at the end of the day you wouldn’t trade any of those people for a glass of wine and a good book…………at least I hope not. 😜
For more on this subject listen to this weeks Podcast episode: Losing Your Identity